It's been such an eventful autumn! And wow, do I have some stories - and messages that have come with them - to share with you.
I'll start with a BIG one... something unexpected that came with many lessons. Of course, it started out like a regular day; a really good one, in fact...
I was making lasagna on a Monday evening... Gabriel was doing his homework at the kitchen table with Isaac reading over his shoulder. As I put the noodles in the pot of boiling water, I had a flash ~ you don't really have to boil the noodles first, they'll cook in the lasagna ~ ah well, they were in the water already... (Lesson 1, listen to the nudges... not a new lesson, but one that always bears repeating.)
Five minutes later it was time to drain the noodles. I picked up the pot of boiling water with both hands, talking with Gabriel about his current events homework as I carried the pot to the sink. Suddenly, my left hand slipped from the handle and boiling water spilled down my right arm...
I dropped the pot...
Boiling water spilled all over the floor...
It happened in slow motion....
As soon as the water hit my arm, three things happened:
First, I left my body. I was so stunned by what had happened, and the pain was so intense, that my spirit managed the shock by moving away from the pain of my body.
Next, my instincts kicked in... I knew my kids were safe (thank goodness they were on the other side of the room when it happened) so I could focus on caring for my own body.
Finally (or maybe first, in the order of things) my guides and angels lined up to support me. This is how I know:
As I called for my kids to help, they immediately moved into action. Isaac drew an ice cold bath, Gabriel started calling my friends to find a ride to the ER. My dad, a doctor, was available by phone to guide us through taking steps to care for the early stages of the burn. A friend arrived to take me to the ER. My brother came to stay with my kids, feed them, and put them to bed. The support I needed arrived with ease.
The ER experience is a story in itself, but there's one vital piece that I'll share here... My friend wasn't able to stay with me, and as I sat there alone, I moved between two states of being: knowing clearly and without question that I was fine and all would be well; and feeling overwhelmed, upset, alone, and (at times) hysterical.
My conscious mind (you might call it ego) needed to point to something that was wrong... the length of time I was waiting, the fact that I was alone, that I didn't know exactly how I'd get home, that my phone was at 20% battery and I didn't have a charger... but in my core, I knew everything was and would be fine. (Lesson 2, don't always listen to what your mind tells you.)
When I returned home my kids were asleep and my brother and I talked for a while. During our conversation he said to me: "you do realize it's fire water that burned you?"
Light bulb moment.
Fire is transformation.
Water is re-birth.
Because of that realization I was able to re-frame the experience as a gift, rather than a trial. And this has since proved to be true. (Lesson 3, look for the gift.)
My arm is nearly healed and I'll have no scarring. But my perspective and my work have been transformed... I look forward to sharing more with you about this over the next weeks and months, as I tell stories about how energy plays out in life and unfold new ways I can support you and your energy... so excited!
Today is the last day of an intense year ~ This calls for Celebration!
And, we're welcoming in what promises to be a dynamic, wish-fulfilling year in 2016! Woot!
To make the most of the letting go and letting in, here's a simple ceremony you can hold tonight...
Grab a paper and pen, matches (have something to burn the paper in safely, please :)) Find yourself a quiet space and hold the intention of leaving behind what doesn't serve you, and stepping with purpose into your most aligned Truth.
Next, make a list of the things you're ready to release and leave behind with 2015. This can be anything in your experience ~ physical, emotional, whatever. Read it out loud and state your intention to let go of these things. Feel them leaving you. Burn the paper.
Then, make a list of the Truths you are calling in this year. Small or big, doesn't matter. Again, read this list out loud, stating your intention to receive these things. Sit for a minute, feeling gratitude for receiving them. Burn this paper.
You are complete! Go and Celebrate the New Year of Clarity and Truth!
For a long time, I never really knew that this ~ life, parenting ~ could feel so good. Now I know that this is actually just the beginning.
And what I really, deeply know (which I’ve known and has only became true through the day in and day out) is this:
If I’m doing ok, my kids are doing ok. The better I am, the better they are.
And yes, having parenting strategies is important. And... I can only really ever implement them when I’m good, really good, like good in the 'best me' way.
This isn't new; you've heard me say it before. And even though I’ve been talking about this for a while, and this is what I’ve focused on with my clients as a Parenting Coach, I've begun diving much deeper into this piece of the journey; the healing of self.
Because that's where my calling lies ~ where it has always been. And I'm now (finally) fully embracing this, which means I can bring so much more to you.
I’m doing this in several ways: with SongMantras (which I've shared with you) and with intuitive energy healing modalities ~ Energy Clearing, Psychic Messaging, and Shamanic Healing. Each of these allows me to assist and guide you in living your life in the most authentic, best feeling way.
I thank you so very much for your presence here. Truly. So much gratitude to you for walking this part of your path with me. If this shift doesn't resonate for you, I invite you to unsubscribe.
However, I do warmly invite you to stay with me on this journey. You can do that by staying right here, where I'll share more about this practice as it blossoms. I will always share about my parenting journey, how I use my work with my children, and how my own growing and deepening translates into their beautiful growth.
Either way, know that I appreciate you. And know that you are not broken. You are beautiful and perfect and learning.
As always, much much love.
I am sooo excited to share this with you!
It starts with a story (and ends with a gift for you :) ... a few months ago, I was driving home from an amazing conference. I was inspired and motivated, and generally feeling good.
While driving, I was thinking about the practices that I use to support myself as a mama, and feeling grateful for them. All of a sudden ~ out of nowhere ~ I started hearing a chant playing in my head (no other word for it, though I've since created one... read on ;)
It wasn't anything I had heard before. It was startling (and amazing). Then, I heard another chant, and another... I grabbed my phone and started recording, and by the end of the drive, I had 8 chants!
I started using them ~ when I became frustrated with my kids, when I was driving and noticed myself feeling anxious, when I was stressed for any reason ~ I would repeat them to myself. And they worked. Every time. My heart rate slowed, my stress level went down, and I felt more at peace than ever before.
Then, I started sharing them with friends and colleagues, and the response has been overwhelming. People love them.
Kids love them, too ~ my boys ask me to sing them frequently. A colleague was listening to one when her daughter walked into the room. They listened to it together, and a bit later she heard her daughter singing it to herself in her room (how great is that :) It was the one I'm gifting to you today ~ 'I Am Peace'.
And so, I decided it was time to start recording and sharing them with you. I'm calling them SongMantras™, and you can either listen to them, or chant them yourself (or chant along while you listen ;)
The first one is ready to go, and is focused on bringing inner peace to your holiday season.
You can listen to it here.
This is really a take-it-with-you tool. Download it onto your phone to listen at any time you need, or simply repeat it to yourself when you could use a breather.
It's perfect for managing those times when you feel your frustration rising with your kids. And the more you use it, the more profound the results.
I wish you the very best holiday season and entry into the New Year. May it be filled with peace, joy, and love. Truly.
I've shared so much with you about parenting challenges. I've told my own stories, and those of others (with their permission, of course.)
So, it only seems right to share the great stuff when it happens, too :)
This is one of those times.
Yesterday was parent/teacher conferences at my children's school. I'll start by saying that I LOVE their school. I have done everything I can to keep them in the independent school they've attended for the past 5 years.
I have worked 50-60 hour weeks (much of it at night, so I can be with them after school.) I took on the position of School Board Chair when nobody else wanted it, and held the position for 5 years ~ guiding the struggling (though stellar) school into a thriving learning center, with preschool through middle school students (all so it would stay open, for my kids to attend ;) I insisted on keeping my children there, against the advice of those near and dear to me.
This was the day it all payed off.
Both teachers' reports were glowing.
Gabriel, who struggled with social interactions last year, has been taking the lead in classroom discussions, excelling academically, and deftly navigating the tricky waters between social norms and valuing his own unique inclinations.
Isaac is a classroom mediator and a light of joy and enthusiasm in the school. He is persevering and making leaps in his reading and writing, despite challenges with reversing letters.
Of course, I see positive changes at home as well. But to know they are translating into the school environment is amazing, after the challenges of the past few years.
Even with parenting fail after parenting fail (as well as successes ;) my children are thriving. My deepest intuition knew what they needed to support them through the difficult years of their parents' separation. And it was totally worth it.
The takeaway here is TRUST your intuition. LISTEN to the inner voice that guides your choices, and HONOR what you know is best for your family.
Thank you for coming along on this journey with me. I'm thrilled to have you here.